There is a reason God’s Word speaks consistently and often about purity. It is the best way to protect children in a fallen and sinful world.
We must never fool ourselves by saying we are teaching purity in sex education. The two concepts don’t mix. Education in sex is what it says it is. Instruction in purity is quit different. God never tells parents to educate children about sex, but to raise their sons and daughters in purity. He equips parents to do this throughout all of Scripture.
You may think I’m quibbling with words. But, I’m not. Take the concepts for what they are. Trace them to their sources. Discover the original goal and intention of each. Then follow the trail of consequences.
We all need to do better in protecting our children. Many loving Christian parents, with their children’s best interests in mind, have inadvertently and most innocently placed their children in harm’s way. I don’t say that lightly. I don’t say that as a mom who did everything right by her children. But, we Christians can’t just point our fingers at non-Christians and say, “Look! They are bad! They let children do whatever they want!” We can’t just look at Planned Parenthood and say, “Shame on them! They are cruel! They wiggle their way into public classrooms to abuse our children!”
We Christian moms and dads must try to be honest. There is another kind of child abuse. It is done unintentionally by good parents. It is done without careful analysis, but for supposedly all the right reasons. Nevertheless, it is cruel. It is a form of child abuse. What would you call starting children in sex ed at an early age, adding more information with every year, putting boys and girls together for intimately graphic conversation and details on birth control, explaining that God wants the act of sex to be saved for marriage, but then telling sons and daughters to wait to marry until after getting their degree and settling into a good job?
We don’t have to unintentionally abuse children. We can intentionally protect them. And God tells us how.
He wants parents to teach His definition of love. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, God tells what love is: “patient and kind,” and what it isn’t: “arrogant . . . rude, or insistent on its own way.”
Both fathers and mothers can teach sons and daughters to “have nothing to do with silly myths,” but instead “train for godliness.” (1 Timothy 4:7-10). We put scholars and athletes through intense training for a purpose. Similar training is also required for living in a way that pleases God; for running the “race” of life (1 Corinthians 9:24-26). Parents can contrast “sexual immorality” and “sensuality” with “patience” and “self-control” (Galatians 5:16-24).
Dads or godly mentors can take boys aside to teach them how to respect women. “Treat older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity” (1 Timothy 5:1-2). To practice self-control (Titus 2:6). Big brothers can guard the virginity of their younger sisters and, if she becomes promiscuous, help her stop (Song of Solomon 8:8-9).
Moms or godly mentors can take girls aside to teach them how to respect and help men. “. . . [L]et your adorning be . . . beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious” (1 Peter 3:4-5). How to dress, and why… “with what is proper for women who profess godliness” (1 Timothy 2:9-10). How to “be self-controlled and pure” (Titus 2:4-5).
Then, even though the world may ridicule young people for saying “no” to sex, we can encourage them: Don’t let anyone “despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity” (1 Timothy 4:11-12).
God also tells us how to welcome our children when they’ve tried, but failed. We are to welcome our children as He welcomes us. “Come to Me,” Jesus always says. Then, He assures us that when “we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).
Tomorrow, in Christ, is brimming with hope.
Ezerwoman's Blog 
Both of the sex education articles are spot on. I thought back to my early schooling where in the 60’s we were split up – boys to the coach, girls to the nurse and shown the film. That film back then was your basic introduction to reproduction and the grown up body. We laughed and giggled nervously, none of us having been taught by our parents about the basics. I went on to experiment at a young age not knowing better, only understanding the mechanics of it all – somewhat.
My sons were raised in the 80’s and I thought I was being a good mother by making sure they understood how babies were made and when they were teens, showing them where the condoms were kept but telling them it would be better if they didn’t have sex. I was a single parent and at the time thought it was the right thing to do.
Today, I can see clearly with 20/20 hindsight how things would have turned out had I had the appropriate instruction growing up from my mother. I could see that with the fostering of a biblical knowledge and Godly expectations for women and men, so many things would have been circumvented. So many things. I remember wondering when I got married what it would have been like to have been a virgin on my wedding night. To have experienced it together as a first.
Today, I’m sure the education has devolved into soft porn with an anything goes mentality. We don’t need the mechanics presented without the important framework of the moral and emotional responsibilities being both taught and modeled for our children and grandchildren by their family. Our society is paying dearly for its quest to remove God from our lives.
We’ve succeeded in turning procreation into a science and placed God into the mythos of ages past. The fruits of our labors are evident in abortions, unwed mothers, diseases that have no cure, valuless life and a generation with no real purpose other than if it feels good, go for it.