The following post was forwarded to me. Thank you, Terri! This is wisdom from another “ezerwoman.” This is true Titus 2 mentoring 🙂 Mrs. Hall, the mother of sons, expresses it so well that there’s no need for me — the mother of grown and married sons with sons of their own — to write something similar. Young women wherever you are and whatever you’ve been taught by this culture: Please read this! As for the moms of daughters (and sons), please visit Kimberly Hall’s blog “Given Breath.”
Dear girls,
I have some information that might interest you. Last night, as we sometimes do, our family sat around the dining-room table and looked through your social media photos.
We have teenage sons, and so naturally there are quite a few pictures of you lovely ladies to wade through. Wow – you sure took a bunch of selfies in your pajamas this summer! Your bedrooms are so cute! Our eight-year-old daughter brought this to our attention, because with three older brothers who have rooms that smell like stinky cheese, she notices girly details like that.
I think the boys notice other things. For one, it appears that you are not wearing a bra.
I get it – you’re in your room, so you’re heading to bed, right? But then I can’t help but notice the red carpet pose, the extra-arched back, and the sultry pout. What’s up? None of these positions is one I naturally assume before sleep, this I know.
So, here’s the bit that I think is important for you to realize. If you are friends with a Hall boy on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter, then you are friends with the whole Hall family.
Please understand this, also: we genuinely like keeping up with you. We enjoy seeing life through your unique and colorful lens – which is what makes your latest self-portrait so extremely unfortunate.
Those posts don’t reflect who you are! We think you are lovely and interesting, and usually very smart. But, we had to cringe and wonder what you were trying to do? Who are you trying to reach? What are you trying to say?
And now – big bummer – we have to block your posts. Because, the reason we have these (sometimes awkward) family conversations around the table is that we care about our sons, just as we know your parents care about you.
I know your family would not be thrilled at the thought of my teenage boys seeing you only in your towel. Did you know that once a male sees you in a state of undress, he can’t ever un-see it? You don’t want the Hall boys to only think of you in this sexual way, do you?
Neither do we.
And so, in our house, there are no second chances, ladies. If you want to stay friendly with the Hall men, you’ll have to keep your clothes on, and your posts decent. If you try to post a sexy selfie, or an inappropriate YouTube video – even once – you’ll be booted off our on-line island.
I know that sounds harsh and old-school, but that’s just the way it is under this roof for a while. We hope to raise men with a strong moral compass, and men of integrity don’t linger over pictures of scantily clad high-school girls.
Every day I pray for the women my boys will love. I hope they will be drawn to real beauties, the kind of women who will leave them better people in the end. I also pray that my sons will be worthy of this kind of woman, that they will be patient – and act honorably – while they wait for her.
Girls, it’s not too late! If you think you’ve made an on-line mistake (we all do – don’t fret – I’ve made some doozies), RUN to your accounts and take down anything that makes it easy for your male friends to imagine you naked in your bedroom.
Will you trust me? There are boys out there waiting and hoping for women of character. Some young men are fighting the daily uphill battle to keep their minds pure, and their thoughts praiseworthy.
You are growing into a real beauty, inside and out.
Act like her, speak like her, post like her.
I’m glad we’re friends.
Mrs. Hall
Ezerwoman's Blog 
So the pictures of your boys on the beach posing with their shirts off is ok then??? Sounds like double standards to me! If your boys were a bunch of girls in bikinis making the exact same pose and they were friends of your boys through social media sites and they posted that pic you would delete them??? You need help!
Have you read all of the negative comments she has received because she posted pictures of her sons without their shirts?
She is being accused of a double standard.
She REALLY needs the support from godly women.
Halli… I can certainly understand why you believe that Mrs. Hall has a double standard. I will have to admit that when I first read her post/open letter and looked at the photos of her sons, I wondered if it was helpful to her message to select those particular photos.
But, here’s the thing, Halli. Boys and girls are equal, but they are not the same. They aren’t the same physically or emotionally. Now isn’t the time to get in to the specially-designed-by-the-Creator differences, but as we discuss at Titus 2 Retreats, men and women think, see, feel, give, receive, love, and communicate differently. Sexy clothing and sensual behavior send a message. Duh! Why do you think a prostitute dresses the way she does? I always told my sons that although girls might be tempted to get attention with their appearance, they as gentlemen and respecters of women needed to practice self-control. A girl may look at Mrs. Hall’s shirt-less son and say, “Wow, he’s hot!” but when a boy looks at a girl in her state of undress or her sensual pose, he may think more than “she’s hot.” He may be tempted to thoughts he shouldn’t have. Let’s be realistic here. Men are shirtless at the pool or on the beach, right? But girls aren’t boys. Mrs. Hall posted a group photo of her sons and daughter at the beach. I’m guessing she wouldn’t have a problem with the siblings of another family posing in swim attire on the beach.
From what I understand, Mrs. Hall isn’t concerned about beach attire. She is concerned about a young girl who has intentionally photographed herself in a sensual pose and made it public. And I’ll have to tell you, Halli, that if Mrs. Hall is like me, she has as much concern for the young woman as she does her own sons. My heart breaks for the girls who are becoming women today in a sex-saturated world. Everywhere a girl looks she is instructed in sensuality. She may do whatever it takes to get a boys’ attention.
But here’s where things get scary, Halli. Pornographers, pedophiles and sex-traffickers are just waiting for girls (and boys) to reveal themselves on-line or by text. For the sake of sons and daughters, we can’t afford to be naive. Nor can we afford to argue over what’s fair and what’s not. I wish I didn’t know about the ugly things that happen today but, since I do, I’m going to have to go one step farther than Mrs. Hill. If the photos the young girl posted might tease or tempt her sons, what might they do to a male predator? We have a lot of freedoms in this world today, but some lead straight into the lion’s den.
UPDATE: Mrs. Hall received so many comments on the photos of her “shirtless” sons that she replaced those photos with ones where everyone is “covered up.” She kept the open letter to the young girl just the same. This is a “hot button” issue, isn’t it . . . this “equal rights,” clothing, male-female, “double-standard” thing. I’m going to leave Mrs. Hall’s letter with the original photos here on Ezerwoman for the sake of dialogue. We all need to think about the message our blog, FaceBook or text photos are sending, don’t we?
Actually Hall needs to keep her damn nose out of the business of other parents. I’m the father of 3 daughters, I don’t need Hall, or people like her telling my daughters how they ought to dress or behave so that Ms Hall’s boys can control their carnal urges. If the “hall boys” can’t handle it (one way or the other) I suggest a cold shower. For Hall I suggest a good stiff Gin and Tonic, I might relax her and the other members of the uptight tight ass club.
I think the important point to remember here is that we are all neighbors. What we do… say… or even how we choose to dress affects our neighbors for good or not so good. We have all become attached to the ideology of “my rights.” But the next generation is negatively affected when we forget about our responsibilities. As the mom of sons and grandsons, I guess I’d make my appeal this way: You work with your daughters and I’ll work with my sons and maybe this will go a long way in preventing trouble.