Archive for the ‘Identity’ Category
Position on Gay “Marriage”
Posted in Biblical manhood & womanhood, Faith & Practice, Identity, Relationships, tagged " homosexuality, behavior, creation, gay marriage, God's Word, husband, identify, lesbian, Lutheran, nature, Rev. Jonathan Fisk, truth, wife, Worldview Everlasting on May 11, 2011| Leave a Comment »
The Pill, Men & Women
Posted in Biblical manhood & womanhood, Culture Shifts, Identity, Relationships, tagged attraction, biology, birth control, body chemistry, family, generations, hormones, lifestyle, men and women, research, science, sex, Shirley Wang, the pill, women on May 11, 2011| Leave a Comment »
Shirley Wang is the author of “The Tricky Chemistry of Attraction — Taking Birth-Control Pills May Mask the Signals That Draw the Sexes Together, Research Shows.” (Wall Street Journal)
Rush Limbaugh’s program of May 10, 2011, featured “The Tricky Chemistry of Attraction.” My husband happened to be listening. I thank him for catching this… and sharing it with me. Whatever you may think of Rush Limbaugh, research is research. The thing is, some of it gets shared… some of it stays hidden. This research helps make sense of many choices, behaviors, and lifestyles that I’ve been watching or aware of as a post-pill woman.
“Much of the attraction between the sexes is chemistry.” Not hard to swallow, eh? Let’s continue. “New studies suggest that when women use hormonal contraceptives, such as birth-control pills, it disrupts some of these chemical signals, affecting their attractiveness to men and women’s own preferences for romantic partners . . . Evolutionary psychologists and biologists have long been interested in factors that lead to people’s choice of mates.”
The article goes on. “One influential study in the 1990s, dubbed the T-shirt study, asked women about their attraction to members of the opposite sex by smelling the men’s T-shirts. The findings showed that humans, like many other animals, transmit and recognize information pertinent to sexual attraction through chemical odors knows as pheromones.”
Continuing, “The study also showed that women seemed to prefer the scents of men whose immune systems were most different from the women’s own immune system genes known as MHC . . . the family of genes permit a person’s body to recognize which bacteria are foreign invaders and to provide protection from those bugs. Evolutionarily, scientists believe, children should be healthier if their parents’ MHC genes vary, because the offspring will be protected from more pathogens. More than 92 million prescriptions for hormonal contraceptives, including pills, patches and injections, were filled last year in the U.S., according to data-tracker IMS Health. Researchers say their aim isn’t to scare or stop women from taking hormonal contraceptives. ‘We just want to know what we’re doing’ by taking the pill, says Alexandra Alvergne, a researcher in biological anthropology at University College London in the U.K. ‘If there is a risk it affects our romantic life and the health status of our children, we want to know.’ ”
Wang, in her article, explains that, “Both men’s and women’s preferences in mates shift when a woman is ovulating” (most often day 14 of her cycle) . . . “Some studies have tracked women’s responses to photos of different men, while other studies have interviewed women about their feelings for men over several weeks. Among the conclusions: When women are ovulating, then tend to be drawn to men with greater facial symmetry and more signals of masculinity, such as muscle tone, a more masculine voice and dominant behaviors . . . The women also seemed to be particularly attuned to MHC-gene diversity. From an evolutionary perspective, these signals are supposed to indicate that men are more fertile and have better genes to confer to offspring.” (Limbaugh comments here: “All of this happens in a split second. It’s not something that’s calculated . . . but it does dictate behavior and choices . . . .”)
Wang’s article continues, “Women tend to exhibit subtle cues when they are ovulating, and men tend to find them more attractive at this time. ‘Women try to look more attractive, perhaps by wearing tighter or more revealing clothing,’ says Martie Haselton, a communications and psychology professor at the University of California, Los Angeles. Research on this includes studies in which photos that showed women’s clothing choices at different times of the month were shown to groups of judges. Women also emit chemical signals that they are fertile; researchers have measured various body odors, says Dr. Haselton. Such natural preferences get wiped out when the woman is on hormonal birth control, research has shown.”
But, “Women on the pill no longer experience a greater desire for traditionally masculine men during ovulation. Their preference for partners who carry different immunities than they do also disappears. And men no longer exhibit shifting interest for women based on their menstrual cycle, perhaps because those cues signaling ovulation are no longer present, scientists say.”
Also, “There is accumulating evidence indicating men react differently to women when they are on birth control. A 2004 study in the journal on Behavioral Ecology used the T-shirt study. But instead put the shirts on 81 women. A panel of 31 men, smelling the T-shirts, experienced the greatest attraction for the non-pill-using women when they were ovulating. Twelve women on the panel didn’t detect any difference.” (Limbaugh comments: “Basically, if this is true, the natural selection process of a woman wanting a traditionally masculine guy when she’s ovulating goes out the window. Nothing to do with sexual orientation here. But this, for example, could give rise to this whole notion of the metrosexual [a man who likes to shop, is in tune with fashion and appearance], if this is true. That’s why if all of this is true, then it changes everything we know about our lives since when the pill became profligate in 1970.)
Take it… or leave it. Limbaugh concludes, “It’s fascinating. Now, you couple all this with the obvious role changes that militant feminism brought on, and it could explain a lot about general unhappiness, confusion, who’s supposed to be what that both sexes seem to exhibit.”
And, finally, another thought on the impact of hormonal birth control and how it affects women and men: “When the pill was approved for use in the U.S. in 1960,” said Limbaugh, “the divorce rate was less than 10%. Over the two decades that followed, divorce rates climbed to over 20%. So maybe it’s harder to stick it out in a marriage if the power of attraction wanes, and if the attraction wanes because the chemicals aren’t there that make it possible, well, that would explain a lot, too.”
Fascinating, don’t you think?
Men… women… not the same. Dare we say created to be different, yet attracted to one another as part of the design… for a purpose. Life. Generations to come. Hmmm.
But, what happens when we tamper with the design?
How Does the World Turn?
Posted in Biblical manhood & womanhood, Culture Shifts, Faith & Practice, Identity, Life issues, Relationships, tagged brights, consequence, creation, despair, evolution, forgiveness, hope, human life, immorality, Jesus Christ, logic, moral living, origin, purpose, secular naturalist, sin, worldview on May 3, 2011| Leave a Comment »
How does the world turn? By chance, proclaims the secular naturalist.
By the hand of God, proclaims the Biblical Christian.
During a Titus 2 Retreat, the answers to a number of simple questions are followed to their natural conclusion.
- Who am I and why am I here?
- From where did I come?
- Why do things go bad?
- Is there hope?
- Where will I go when I die?
If I evolved by chance from primordial soup; if my only purpose in life is self-fulfillment; if I’m not responsible for my own messes; if I rely on myself or science to perfect the world; and when I die, well, that’s all there is… how do you think I will live my life? What will the consequences be?
On the other hand, if I was created by God to be a woman quite different from man, and certainly not an animal; if my purpose is to be in a relationship with God and glorify Him with my behavior; if the world and every person in it is sinful because Adam and Eve disobeyed God; if I am responsible for my own messes; if I believe that Jesus Christ died for my sins and rose victorious over evil; and when I die, I will not stay dead but be raised to stand before God… how do you think I will try to live my life? What will the consequences be?
It all seems reasonable and quite simple. Follow secular naturalism to it’s logical conclusion and we find devaluation of human life by abortion, “mercy killing,” and school shootings; broken relationships; abuse; tyranny and terrorism; racism and hopeless, human misery.
But, follow Biblical Christianity to it’s logical conclusion and we find value in every human life; restored relationships; kindness and mercy; forgiveness; and hope for the human family.
That’s how my world turns.
Hope… and Change
Posted in Biblical manhood & womanhood, Culture Shifts, Faith & Practice, Identity, Life issues, Relationships, tagged " homosexuality, behavior, change, gay, God's Word, hope, Jesus Christ, lesbian, men, ministry, same-sex marriage, women on April 29, 2011| Leave a Comment »
Much dialogue followed the front page story and photo in my hometown newspaper. What would one expect after reading the headline: “Mr. & Mr.”? Discussions have been sane and civil. No voices raised. No anger. Some disagreement, yes. Concern, yes. Disappointment, yes. But, no hateful words.
Then arrived in my mail a simple but hand-written note from Exodus International. Exodus is a ministry for those leaving the homosexual lifestyle. When others ask, “Is there hope? Is change possible?,” Exodus follows the example of Christ by walking the journey with struggling people. Exodus doesn’t just speak God’s Word. It makes use of it. Over a period of years, I have kept my eye on this organization, watching to see how they treat people. How they respond to attacks from their opposition. Who funds them. Why they continue to exist. I donate to this ministry, recommend them to others, and offer their resources. Exodus takes prayer requests from those on their mailing list. Following the “marriage” of the two young men in my community, I asked the Exodus staff to include these two men in their prayers.
A few days later, I received a hand-written note. “Dear Linda,” it read, “Thank you so much for your support. Today in our prayer time, we prayed for the two young men you mentioned in your community. We will continue to lift you and your family up as well. God bless!” It was signed, “In Christ’s name, Janine.”
Exodus took my prayer request seriously. They “heard” and responded with a promise to rely not on themselves, but on God. This personal note was evidence that Exodus takes the struggle of homosexuality seriously. When this ministry speaks of “hope” and “change,” it speaks not in human terms, but Godly. Exodus is bold in Jesus’ name because they have evidenced the hope that comes with changed behavior. Exodus does not shame those they serve, but treats them with a compassion not unlike Jesus who reached out to include those who didn’t seem to fit this or that mold.
Too many people don’t want to believe that change in behavior is possible. The ministry of Exodus is opposed by gay and lesbian advocacy groups. But, the stories of men and women who have found hope in changed behavior witness to me of what happens when we stop resisting the Word of Christ and trust Him with our lives.
The media doesn’t sing the praises of Exodus and other ex-gay ministries. But, if one is really interested in the souls of their neighbors, they might want to visit Exodus.
No Bikini on Good Friday
Posted in Biblical manhood & womanhood, Faith & Practice, Identity, Relationships, tagged bikini, clothing, Easter, fashion, forgiveness, Good Friday, hope, love, new life, sacrifice, sin, women on April 24, 2011| Leave a Comment »
The first man and woman were naked in the Garden. There was no shame because both were created in God’s perfect image. But, when Adam and Eve sinned by disobeying God, they fell from that perfect image and were no longer righteous (holy) in the sight of God. They lost their pure and trusting relationship with God.
Sin distorted what God created. The man and woman no longer saw each other with perfect eyes or experienced a perfect relationship. Eve tried to cover her nakedness with leaves. But, God said a bikini of fig leaves wasn’t enough. What she did with her own hands wasn’t enough. Trying to partially cover herself wasn’t enough.
The consequences of sin changed everything for men, women, and all of their children. Today, we are deceived by our distorted ideas of right and wrong. We are arrogant and immodest. But, God still says that a bikini of fig leaves isn’t enough.
So, is that it? Does God just sit in His heaven and count our sins against us? When sin exposed nakedness and spoiled a perfect relationship between God and his creation, did He abandon us all? Did He say, I am Holy. You are not. I am finished with you. No.
God had mercy. The Creator of life had a plan that would reconcile sinful people with a Holy God. Adam and Eve could no longer stay in the Garden, but God did not send them naked or without hope into a changed world. He made a promise… and then He covered them with garments of clothing made by His own hands. The promise was a Savior from sin. The clothing was really more than just animal skins.
God’s mercy required sacrifice and special clothes. We can think of that sacrifice and “robe of righteousness” today. On Good Friday, we remember that “all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). There is nothing we can do to cover our sin. But, thanks be to God! Adam and Eve did not have to despair, and neither do we! In mercy, God clothes those whom He loves. We are clothed in righteousness at our baptism. We are clothed in righteousness when we hear the Gospel and the Holy Spirit works faith.
Physical clothing reminds us of our sinful condition. But, the clothes we wear also remind us of God’s mercy. When God covered Adam and Eve, He sacrificed an animal. This first shedding of blood in the Bible points us toward God’s ultimate shedding of Jesus’ blood on the Cross. Every time we get dressed, we can remember that God has “clothed [us] with garments of salvation” and “wrapped [us] with a robe of righteousness” (Isaiah 61:10).
The covering of our sins by Christ on Good Friday was not partial, like a bikini of fig leaves. It was complete.
Makes me think differently about getting dressed.
Foolish Women
Posted in Biblical manhood & womanhood, Culture Shifts, Faith & Practice, Identity, Life issues, Relationships, Vocation, tagged children, deceit, family, feminism, folly, foolishness, Friedan, hope, Jesus Christ, motherhood, mothers, NARAL, Planned Parenthood, Schlafly, society, Steinem, suffragettes, wisdom, women on April 20, 2011| Leave a Comment »
“The woman Folly is loud; she is seductive and knows nothing . . . she takes a seat on the highest places of the town” (Proverbs 9:13-14).
“The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down” (Proverbs 14:1).
These verses, inspired so long ago, describe the feminist movement of today. As a young wife and mom, I know some of my thinking was shaped by twisted feminism. But, my eyes were opened by a variety of experiences: my own and those of other women who had taken me into their confidence. Today, my eyes more easily see the vivid contrasts between the woman God created me to be and the woman deceived feminists think I should be.
My library contains the work of many women who’ve left the feminist movement because it was foolish. I’ve listed a few recommendations below. Be prepared not only for a courageous read, but to have some of your own illusions shattered.
All of my reading tells me that the early suffragettes would find little in common with today’s feminists. Women like Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony were pro-family (not anti-male) and were strongly opposed to abortion. Compare them with the National Organization of Women (NOW), or the National Abortion Rights Action League (NARAL), or Planned Parenthood (PP) whose women consider abortion their cornerstone.
Betty Friedan, author of The Feminist Mystique, never found joy: not as a girl, a daughter, a woman, a wife, or a mother. Certainly she had choices, as we all do, but she chose to speak ill of everything womanly. Rather than leave dysfunction behind and seek healthy mentors, she blamed society for woman’s woes. She was “loud,” “seductive,” and “knew nothing” about the created beauty and purpose of women. Knowing nothing, she “took a seat in the highest place of town” and led women of my mother’s and my generations into foolishness. “It was easier for me,” Friedan wrote in her book, “to start the women’s movement than to change my own personal life.”
Folly — the woman captivated by modern feminism — has not built a house, but “with her own hands tears it down.”
Did the women who followed Betty Friedan and Gloria Steinem find contentment? Did they help women adjust attitudes away from “me” toward others? Did they raise — or lower — the standard for women? For men? For children? Did they help younger women find joy in their beautiful design or turn them against their created nature? Did they soften or harden hearts? Did their demand for an “equal playing field” produce victory — or defeat — for family and society?
All that I see (and that’s no exaggeration) tells me that the foolish women of the modern feminist movement opened the door to promiscuity and “friends with benefits,” girls less protected by boys and men, depression, increased vulnerability to STDs (how cruel not to tell young women that their very anatomy makes them more susceptible to sexual diseases), mothers turning hearts against their own children, an explosion of weary and lonely single moms, and no-fault divorce.
Had it with Folly? Then, turn to Wisdom. Wisdom is Jesus Christ. Look up all the verses in Scripture that describe Wisdom. The wisdom of Jesus Christ is life-changing. Problem-solving. Creative. Hopeful. Pregnant with promise.
Was feminism a mystique or a mistake? (Read Diane Passno’s book Feminism: Mystique or Mistake?)
Who distorted what the early suffragettes believed? (Read Christina Hoff Sommer’s book Who Stole Feminism?)
Did our own mothers forget — or refuse — to tell us something? (Read Danielle Crittenden’s book What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us)
Is modern feminism built on a lie? (Read Suzanne Venker and Phyllis Schlafly’s new book The Flipside of Feminism)
“No True Loving God Would . . . “
Posted in Biblical manhood & womanhood, Culture Shifts, Faith & Practice, Identity, Relationships, tagged " homosexuality, choice, consequence, creator, forgiveness, hate, homophobic, hope and change, Jesus Christ, judgment, love, Savior, sin on April 18, 2011| Leave a Comment »
“Calling homosexuality a sin is homophobic,” proclaimed the college student, “and no true, loving God would promote hatred against someone based on how he or she created them.”
But, what “true, loving God” would “create” a person to be homosexual? What a cruel God that would be! Would He think it amusing that body parts don’t fit? Would He callously dunk biscotti in His coffee as He watched the health of men deteriorate and the hearts of women grow cold?
When people claim that homosexuals are “born that way,” I agree. We are — each one of us — born with sin in us. But, my choice is to embrace that sin or fight it; to do things that my body wasn’t made to do, or be on guard against harming myself and others; to be “lord and master” of my own life, or to trust that God knows best what I need and is good for me (as well as those affected by my choices).
The God of creation made Adam and Eve perfectly. She was a “helper fit for him.” (Literally: “like his opposite.”) Their “fit,” in the intimacy of marriage, would be complementary and procreative. The Creator said it was “good.” God would be contrary to Himself if He created such masterpieces and then set them on a course of abuse and destruction. No, it was not God that brought confusion, struggle, and pain into our lives. It is human sin — our own pride and disobedience — that makes this world a dark and troublesome place.
The God of reciprocal love did not force the first man and woman to be in a relationship with Him. He invited them to trust Him and choose life. The alternative was to trust themselves and choose death. When Satan tempted Eve with his question, “Did God really say . . . ?” she and Adam both failed to trust God… and sinned. Sin brought selfishness, deceit, abuse, difficult relationships, fear of children, weaknesses for all manner of harmful behavior (including unnatural sex), diseases, and death.
Can God tolerate sin and its consequences? No. But, the God who despises sin does not hate the person who sins. Adam and Eve chose to disobey God so could no longer stay in the perfect garden, but before entering a now changed and harsh world, God promised One who would win victory over satan, sin, and death.
The promise was kept. Jesus Christ came down into our dark and troublesome world. He knew that, left to ourselves, sinful people are alienated from the Holy God… and there’s nothing we can do about it. So, Jesus cried out,
Whoever believes in Me, believes not in Me but in Him who sent Me. And whoever sees Me sees Him who sent Me. I have come into the world as light, so that whoever believes in Me may not remain in darkness. If anyone hears My words and does not keep them, I do not judge him; for I did not come to judge the world but to save the world. The one who rejects Me and does not receive My words has a judge; the word that I have spoken will judge him on the last day” (John 12:44-48).
Good Friday approaches. I am drawn to the Cross where my Savior showed compassion for sinners. Dare I cheapen His amazing grace or mock His victory over death by claiming that my sins matter not to the Holy God?
Leading Children… Where?
Posted in Biblical manhood & womanhood, Culture Shifts, Faith & Practice, Identity, Life issues, Relationships, tagged children, classroom, Day of Silence, deception, GLSEN, mentoring, parental rights, parents, school, sexuality, teachable moment on April 8, 2011| 1 Comment »
The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) is sponsoring “Day of Silence” this April 15 in some public schools across the country. To where… and what… does this group want to lead our children?
Some call this a “hijacking of the classroom.” Others label it “political propaganda.” Take note of the name of this organization. How deceitfully it shapes impressionable minds to believe that any and all sexual preferences are “normal.” The question hangs heavy: “Will there be a ‘Day of Silence’ for Biblical manhood and womanhood? For traditional marriage? For “equal, but different”? For abstaining ’til marriage?
What is the destination determined for our children by GLSEN?
There is only one voice I know of that tempts and stirs up doubt. It is the voice that asks, “Did God really say . . . ?” That voice is hissing in the ears of our children today. Did God really say He created humans: male and female? Did God really say He made male to fit with female within the faithfulness of marriage? Did God really say behaviors can bring blessings or curses?
Is this event being planned for your school? (The national date in 2011 is April 15, but some schools observe Day of Silence on a different date.) Learn more by visiting Day of Silence Walkout.
Fanciful… but Dangerous
Posted in Biblical manhood & womanhood, Commentaries of others, Culture Shifts, Faith & Practice, Identity, Life issues, Relationships, Vocation, tagged children, dialogue, faith, family, forgiveness, hope, hope and change, Jesus Christ, marriage, morality, opposing worldviews, science, truth, worldviews on April 6, 2011| 1 Comment »
“Not a Scientist” has offered ezerwoman the opportunity to hear from someone of a contrasting worldview. I don’t know “Not a Scientist,” but I am grateful that he’s interested in dialogue. This society needs more of that.
Twice, “Not a Scientist” has commented on my post, “Questions to Help Us Think (4-4-11). My pastor and son have also joined in the discussion. This is a good thing. That’s part of the reason why I’ve put myself out here — in blog world. Some say, “Linda! You’re a target.” There is no fear in that. Not if I’m a target for well-thought out words that may — or may not — agree with my worldview. We should be doing more talking. Explaining. Researching. Challenging. We should practice building our lives upon what we think and know to be true rather than upon fickle feelings and emotions.
To “Not a Scientist” I offer the following:
You and I see the world through very different glasses. Our worldviews boldly contrast.
- My worldview is built on God’s Word. Yours is not.
- My worldview does not blow with the wind or shift like sand. I believe yours blows and shifts a great deal depending upon circumstances.
- My worldview is built on the created order; thus, I know who I am, from where I come, how I’m to live, and where I’m going when I die. You don’t appear to believe in any created order but, rather, evolving chaos.
- My worldview tells me how God wants men and women to live and relate to one another. Yours, well, how are men and women supposed to live and relate to one another? Why?
- My worldview offers a future of generational hope built on the backs of fathers, mothers, and grandparents who faithfully teach their sons, daughters, and grandchildren what God says about morality, ethics, marriage and family, “loving our neighbor as ourselves, and serving “the least of these.” It appears you can entertain your fanciful and humanistic ideas only because fathers, mothers, and grandparents faithfully wove the strong fabric of this nation which you don’t seem to appreciate but certainly enjoy wearing.
- My worldview explains that the problems and challenges of relationships, marriages, families, and the whole of society are because of sin which opposes God’s good and perfect design. I’d be interested to know why you think life is so difficult.
- My worldview explains that everything — good or bad — has a consequence (you know, like gravity). Do you acknowledge consequences and can you explain why they exist?
- My worldview explains why I daily battle with myself and that I’ll never be good enough to save myself. Do you sense an inner struggle between right and wrong, good and evil? Even though you say you don’t believe in souls, what if you’re wrong and you really have one? Where will your body and soul be after you die?
- I can’t seem to do the good I know I should but, instead, I do the bad I don’t want to do. This quandary could leave me in desperation. In desperation, I might be tempted to sacrifice something in order to save myself. But, I don’t have to. My worldview assures me that the one and only necessary sacrifice to make me right with the Holy God was made by Jesus Christ on the Cross. At the Cross, I can lay down my burdens, sorrows, disappointments, and failures. Jesus forgives me. Now, He only asks that I use His Word for life that changes lives. Every day for me is new and filled with hope. Mr. “Not a Scientist,” how do you start your days? To what do you look forward? What hope do you have? What hope do you offer others? (I can tell you: You have the same hope I do because Jesus died for you, too. Can you believe it?)
You have fanciful ideas, Mr. “Not a Scientist.” But, they are dangerous. When I expressed concern for the two young men now “joined” in “marriage,” I did so because I am positive they have souls. Souls that will live forever — with God or not. I am positive because God’s Word tells me so. If I’m wrong, there is no loss. If I’m right, and those created and precious souls are separated from God because of sinful choices, then there is huge loss. Soulful loss.
Fanciful ideas, like free-falling without a parachute, are exciting — for awhile.

Not the Same God
Posted in Biblical manhood & womanhood, Commentaries of others, Culture Shifts, Faith & Practice, Identity, Life issues, tagged abortion, Christianity, common ground, dialogue, God, Jesus Christ, mission field, opposing views, pro-life, religion, worldviews on April 15, 2011| Leave a Comment »
“Melissa’s” are in our neighborhoods, families, and even congregations. Perhaps, if you have a spare moment or two, you might skim her commentaries. Does she think like anyone you know? What happens when worldviews seemingly share no common ground? What does God ask us to do?
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